Small post with some of my musings about fate. Hope you like it.
Everyone has heard this phrase. We tell it to ourselves constantly. I think I told it to my friend as recently as yesterday. No one can deny, though, that we say it to make ourselves feel better about an event that is out of our control. Sometimes we don’t mean it, but desperately want to believe that bad things happen to us because something good is about to happen, or that we’ll benefit in some way from what is happening.
Most of the time, though, it isn’t like that. Fate might exist, yes, but it is all bound to us, our decisions and what we do. Our actions define our future. We can run on autopilot, yes, but that won’t do any good for us. Our action or inaction will cause something to happen. This is basic physics that we can apply to life. This is also the principle that defines the butterfly effect. That’s the beautiful thing about humanity. We have free will, and it is our duty to exert it as well as we can so our future (and others’) is as bright as we can.
There are, however, some factors that we cannot control. The weather and someone else’s actions or words are things that could ruin (or change) our plans. What we can work with is how we react to these events. Our mind is sometimes our biggest enemy, and controlling our negative thoughts is the key for success. Life is about these little things. One can learn to enjoy it, or grieve for everything we lost. It is our choice.
Some things do not happen for a reason. The sooner we accept that, the better. What is up to us, though, is what we do about the events that happen. Are we going to go with the flow, with inertia, or are we going to fight for what we want?
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3 thoughts on ““Everything happens for a reason””
The phrase is definitely well-meaning, but I often feel like it belittles the other person’s feelings. It feels too much like, “You’re upset because you’re not looking at the big picture,” or “It’s not as bad as you think,” which just tells the other person not to be upset. I don’t think we have a right to tell someone how they should react to a situation or what they should be feeling.
The phrase makes the person saying it feel better more so than the person it’s being told to. I think we all tend to fall back on these phrases as a way of sympathizing because it’s easier than empathizing.
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Sometimes it is easier to think the other person will feel better with just a few words, when it is definitely not so. 🙂
Like you said, empathizing is way harder than sympathizing.
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